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Why Husbands Who Share Household Chores Miss Out on Sex
In what feels like a blow to egalitarianism, new research finds that husbands and wives who assign housework along traditional gender lines have more sex than those who split the chores more equitably.
After reviewing data on how married couples in the U.S. tackle housework, as well as self-reports of how often they enjoyed intercourse, sociologists at the University of Washington (UW) say that couples who shared the burden of chores — cooking, cleaning and caring for the lawn — tend to have the least active sex lives.
The couples reported having sex about five times in the month before the survey began. But if the husband did no stereotypically female tasks (making meals, perhaps, or scrubbing floors), couples had sex 1.6 times more per month than couples in which husbands were responsible for doing all of those chores. Couples where the husband contributed to household chores, but stuck to the more stereotypically male tasks (car maintenance, bill paying, yard work) had sex .7 times more than those where the wife did all the male work.
That means that couples where husbands do no traditionally female tasks have sex the most: 4.85 times a month. Conversely, couples where men do all the female work have sex the least: 3.3 times a month.
The couples where husbands pitch in but do only the male tasks, fall somewhere in between; they’re sliding between the sheets 4.7 times a month. Meanwhile, couples where wives do all the male tasks have sex just under four times a month.
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Overall, couples put in a combined 34 hours a week on traditionally female tasks compared to 17 hours on manly chores. Husbands performed about a fifth of classic women’s work and more than half of men’s work.
The findings, drawn from 4,500 heterosexual married U.S. couples participating in the National Survey of Families and Households, add some context to other studies that have found that husbands get more sex when they do more housework — a kind of domestic quid pro quo. But those conclusions didn’t quite ring true for Julie Brines, a co-author of the new study published in the American Sociological Review. She and her colleagues have done work suggesting that the division of housework doesn’t align with an “exchange model” where chores are traded for a share of income, for example, or sex.
Instead, Brines surmised that the relationship between sex and housework is actually far more complex. In actuality, it’s tied to stereotypical views of what qualifies as women’s — or men’s — work. And despite progress toward gender equality, “These are residues of sexual scripts that have been in place in our culture for a long time,” she says.
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And what about the more important responsibility for couples with a family? This study did not take into account childcare as a household chore — most commonly performed by women but increasingly embraced by men — because the data used did not contain useful information about who cares for the kids. No one, notes Brines, has yet looked at whether dads who do more childcare get more sex.
It’s also worth pointing out that the national survey data was collected between 1992 and 1994, but Brines and her co-authors saythat the relationship between sex and housework has changed little since then. Research reveals only a modest evolution in the division of household labor over the past 18 years — mainly in the realm of childcare, with more dads stepping up.
Still, for the husbands who might be feeling smug about the results of her study, Brines has a bit of advice. “Don’t walk away from this research thinking, I should stay away from cooking or cleaning because I’ll benefit from it,” she cautions. “There may be costs associated with doing that.”
After all, a great sex life isn’t everything. Other research has found that neglecting to pitch in with dinner prep may create conflict in your marriage around the division of household labor. Men who shun cooking and cleaning can actually engender marital conflict which could also result in less sex. “There are trade-offs,” says Brines. And that’s putting it mildly.
1) It sucks but it's true in my house. I think that when women do more of a traditional role in the house hold they also are more to concent to having sex with their husband. When the husband does more of the house work in the home, it's like it empowers the women not to have to consent to having sex with her husband when he wants it.
Well it's a problem cause if I'm not getting it from her I'll have to get it from someone else :}
2) Women might not realize it or want to admit it, but they are not attracted to men that do household chores. They might appreciate it, but they do not get turned on.
The kind of men that scrub floors and do laundry are the types of men that get cheated on and dominated by their spouses. Women can yell and scream at me, but their dark inner selves like masculine men. For a masculine man that seizes his role in the household, women will fill their role. This includes cleaning, cooking, etc. more than the man. (Not exclusively, just more.)
This is not based on "stereotypes." Pull your head out of your butt. These instincts are built into us just like in any other species. We are animals, remember?
3) I can tell you why they get less sex, it is because they keep a tally of who does the most housework. For twenty years I did all of the housework, everything. Then I got a job traveling and my husband had to take over household chores while I was gone. From that point forward our marriage started falling apart. He complained every step. I traveled hundreds of miles every Friday and Monday to be with him but when I was home all he did was complain about any little mess I made. He complained that i was tired, duh! I'm home now and my husband continues to do housework but believe me he keeps tally. If I don't do the same amount of work as he does he pouts. I guess the twenty years I worked and did all the housework counted for nothing. Oh yea I really look forward to having sex with this jerk.
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